The Queen of Hearts: The Confessions of An ‘Accidental’ Leader

I didn’t purpose to be in the space that I find myself in.  God plucked me from the path that I had set out for myself & set me on an alternative journey. At the start it all appeared somewhat ‘accidental’ but I know now that it was no accident, rather His design, His purpose for my life…

So now that I am here, these are my confessions…the lessons I am learning about being a woman in business, building an empire, one brick at a time…

“Learning is not attained by chance, it must be sought for with ardor and attended to with diligence.”
― Abigail Adams

It’s not enough to want to learn.  I have learned that I need to schedule time to invest in myself.

I know from experience how easy it is to just work IN your business for months on end, buried in the minutiae of those never-ending, supposedly-urgent tasks, without doing anything to work ON your business.

In the early days, I was & did everything. Business development & marketing – including training myself to be a ‘social media guru’ – the jury is still out on how successful I was. I managed client meetings, ran our training programs & the post-training coaching.  I also did the administrative tasks, HR and accounting. It made sense then to spend almost all time working in the business – one can’t worry about working on the business if there isn’t much of a business to begin with. But as the business grew, and achieved some stability, I realised that I needed to be intentional about setting aside time to chart, manage and navigate our growth.  And part of that is investing in learning.

The interesting thing about building an empire is that the skills required aren’t necessarily inherent.  I love what I do, and I would say – I am pretty good at it.  Working with individuals, families, teams, organisations and communities – helping them to identify how to utilise Emotional Intelligence as a tool for transformation, I am in my element. I know that this is what God created me for.  Running the business however, is something entirely different and requires skills that don’t necessarily come naturally.  Because I am building an empire, a business that will outlive me – I must take then time to look up, remind myself of where we are going & invest the time required to ensure that I have the necessary skills to take us there.

When you look at it objectively, it’s easy to see the value of working on your business.  Unfortunately, knowing it’s important doesn’t mean it will actually get done. Ideally, you should be spending approx. 20% of your time working on your business. This translates to 2 hours a day, without fail, and part of that time needs to be invested in sharpening your skills. Imagine the impact of spending 2 hours a week sharpening your skills…

An integral part of developing Emotional Intelligence, is intentionality.  Doing what needs to be done.  I have learned that learning doesn’t happen by osmosis, I need to invest the time to develop the skills necessary to get us from where we are today, to where we want to go.

Emotional Intelligence is being more aware, more intentional & more purposeful.

With Love,

The Queen Of Hearts

Mucha Mlingo

| Six Seconds EQ Practitioner | Master Trainer & Facilitator |

| Award Winning International Keynote Speaker |