I didn’t purpose to be in the space that I find myself in.  God plucked me from the path that I had set out for myself & set me on an alternative journey. At the start it all appeared somewhat ‘accidental’ but I know now that it was no accident, rather His design, His purpose for my life… 

So now that I am here, these are my confessions…the lessons I am learning about being a woman in business, building an empire, one brick at a time… 

“Our words are the blueprints of our thoughts and have amazing power to manifest into our reality.” 

Kemmy Nola

I have learned that the words that I speak have power – power to build or destroy.  

The brain is made up of cells called neurons. These cells have nerve endings called synapses and dendrites. The nerve endings release chemical and electrical stimuli to communicate with each other. This brain communication forms neuro-pathways in the brain and is the basis for how the brain works.  

Everything you do and think is therefore governed by the chemical & electrical impulses firing across the synapses. When any behaviour or pattern is repeated enough, the synaptic pathways associated with that pattern get used to being accessed. As a result, it becomes easier for impulses to travel along those pathways, and the behaviour or thought process seems “natural.”  The more frequently you think a particular thought, the more often you speak a particular word, the stronger the pathway becomes, forming an automatic habit of thinking or speaking. And thus, your self-talk; be it positive or negative, becomes a habit and manifests itself in your behaviour. 

Emotional Intelligence includes being kind to self.  

When last did you listen to yourself, to your daily self-talk?  All too often, our “self-talk” is not only negative but harsh & critical.  As a matter of fact, individuals often speak to themselves in a way they would never speak to anyone else. 

Executive Life Coach, Lolly Daskal, stresses the importance of listening carefully to the words that you use with yourself.  This is because language is central to your very thought processes; 

“If you would never say it to someone else, don’t say it to yourself. 

If it drains you rather than adding to your energy, stop saying it. 

If it makes you feel sad, mad, or bad, stop saying it. 

If it’s a tone you wouldn’t tolerate from anyone else, don’t tolerate it from yourself.” 

I have learned that it is important to pay keen attention to the words that I speak.  ‘Life and death is in the power of the tongue’ and I have purposed to speak life into my future. 

With Love, 
The Queen Of Hearts 
Mucha Mlingo 
| Six Seconds EQ Practitioner | Master Trainer & Facilitator | 
| Award Winning International Keynote Speaker |